Many years ago I stumbled upon a truth that I have come to rely upon when working with couples in marriage counseling today in Orange County, CA. Back then I worked as a camp counselor in Texas. With an interest in dating the other counselors at the camp, I developed a quick way to determine which ones I wanted to spend more time with by starting a practice called “dumping the canoe.” I would take a prospect out on a canoe ride and at some point tip the canoe. What I was looking for was someone who would be upset, but be willing to talk, work through it and then be able to happily continue together sopping wet.
You see, without conflict, there is NO possibility of building trust and closeness in a relationship. You just don’t know what kind of a partner you have until there are problems, or differences in wants and needs. Only then do you find out if you have a partner who is willing to stay engaged, negotiate fairly and be willing to truly forgive. https://therelationfoundation.com/2016/03/02/dump-canoe-conflict-key-closeness-keyword-marriage-counseling-orange-county-ca/
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